I hate this time of the year! Well, actually just Valentine’s Day and I don’t hate the day itself, I hate that the fact that it’s not celebrated in my relationship. My husband is one of ‘those guys’. He believes that it’s just a big waste of money and that he shows me that he loves me every other day of the year so why should he be forced to do it on that day.
I get his argument however my point is, if you can show me every other day why make a point to make my feel unloved on this one specific day? And yes, I acknowledge that he’s awesome and he spoils me and he knows how to treat me but damnit I’m a woman and I want roses on Valentine’s Day! Is that too much to ask for? And I don’t care about cost, expensive, cheap, it all means the same to me. For me, it’s actually about the receiving and giving. Even though he doesn’t like the day I still make a point of getting him a little cup cake or make something extra special for supper or putting his favourite sweets on his pillow and get into something sexy before bed. I know he enjoys it so does he pretend that he doesn’t? I’d love a letter or Sweetie Pie from the BP or even a flower from the garden for heaven’s sake!
When I was younger I always celebrated V-Day. My dad would get us all chocolates or the family would have a nice supper together. In school I’d make those homemade cards for my friends and when I was a teenager I’d get a thrill every time I received a gift from a guy. Eventually I moved on to the fancy dinners and candle light with a special someone and I loved every second of it. When I was single my friends and I would all go out for supper and the boys would buy us roses, we’d love it because it was special. I understand that commercial things don’t count, it’s about spending time with loved ones and taking the time out to make them feel loved and needed. So what if that’s easier with a fancy wrapped package from a gift store at the mall? The end result is what counts.
I’m a traditional female. You can sucker me with sweet words and gifts and compliments. Who doesn’t like to feel special? In my books flattery will get you everywhere! So why, on this one day, when everyone else is getting roses delivered to work and preparing for fancy suppers should I suffer? I don’t care if I sound childish, I hate it! There’s been a few times in our relationship where other guys have sent me gifts for V-Day and instead of being jealous he’s actually glad because that lets him of the hook! The nerve!
So this year I’m adopting his attitude and boycotting V-Day. My girlfriends and I have a fun even planned. I’ll be slipping on a sexy dress accompanied by a pair of killer heels and he will definitely not by seeing the lingerie that I intend on spoiling myself with. It’s all about me this year!